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Everything you need to know about the Cue Club experience.

01. The Group Container
What if I’m nervous about being seen or working with strangers?
Feeling hesitant about opening up to new people is a natural protective response. While you are welcome to start with your camera off to find your bearings, we strongly encourage active participation as you grow more comfortable.

Stepping out of your comfort zone and being "seen" in a regulated state is a core part of the transformation. We practice collective accountability—when you show up for yourself, you’re helping create a safe container for everyone else.
How is my privacy protected during Practice Circles?
We treat the live sessions as a sacred space. We do not record the live role-plays or the personal sharing of our members. We only record the expert demonstrations and grounding techniques for the archive. You can practice deeply knowing your process stays within the room.
What happens if I miss a Live Circle?
You won't be left behind. You’ll have access to The Practice Archive, which contains the demonstrations of the month’s exercises. We also facilitate Practice Partner connections, so you can pair up with another member to run the role-plays on your own schedule.
How do you ensure the group stays safe and professional?
Safety is our first priority. All Cue Club members must agree to our Code of Care, which prohibits "trauma-dumping" or unsolicited advice. Our facilitators are trained to titration-based somatic standards, ensuring the container remains focused on regulation and skill-building rather than emotional flooding.
02. Access & Tiers
How is the Cue Club different from the Free Membership?
The Free Membership gives you a "taster"—access to a limited set of resources, with Skill-Building Workshops available as separate purchases.

The Cue Club Membership is the all-access pass. It includes full access to the entire Resource Center, all Skill-Building Workshops at no extra cost, and exclusive entry into the Monthly Live Practice Circles and the private Cue Club member group.
Is there a community space?
Yes. We have a private group dedicated exclusively to Cue Club members. This is where we share wins, ask questions about specific cues, and stay connected between the live sessions. It’s a focused space away from the noise of social media.
Will I have direct access to the Facilitators?
Yes. Our lead facilitators and the Council Rotation experts are active within the private member group. While this isn't 1-on-1 coaching, you will have regular opportunities to have your questions answered during live workshops, circles, and within the community platform.
03. Practical Logistics
What if I’ve never done somatic work before?
You are in the right place. Most of our members started exactly where you are. We don't use jargon or complex theories—we focus on simple, physical cues that anyone can learn. We meet you exactly where your nervous system is today.
Can I cancel or pause my membership?
Absolutely. You are in total control. You can pause or cancel your subscription at any time through your member dashboard with zero hassle. We believe you should stay because the work is serving you, not because of a contract.
I’m a practitioner; can I use this with my own clients?
The Cue Club is primarily for your personal integration and regulation. While the skills you embody will absolutely make you a better practitioner, the materials, scripts, and videos in the Resource Center are for individual member use only and cannot be redistributed.
04. Real World Integration
What if I "fall off the wagon" and stop practicing for a while?
We expect it. Life happens, and sometimes we lose our rhythm. The Cue Club is designed to be a permanent resource, not a race. There is no "behind." You can step back in at any time, join a circle, and pick up right where you left off without judgment.
Do these "Cues" really work in the heat of a conflict?
That is exactly what they are for. We don't practice for the sake of the practice; we practice for the moment of impact. By building these responses in the "Live Lab," you are training your nervous system to make regulation your new automatic reflex when things get heated in your real life.
Is there a specific path I need to follow?
We provide a Success Map to help you navigate the Resource Center, but the journey is yours. Whether you want to focus on "The Morning Reset," "High-Stress Interruptions," or "Relational Safety," you have the freedom to follow the cues that feel most urgent for your life right now.
A Note From Our Founder

Behind Cue Club

Jordan Buchan

I built Cue Club because I was tired of knowing better and still not responding the way I wanted to.

I understood the patterns. I could explain the trigger. I had done the therapy. And yet, in the moments that mattered most, I would still loop. I would still shut down, over-explain, push people away, go into a spiral of shame.

What I eventually realized is this: change isn’t about learning something new. It’s about becoming someone new.

And you don’t become someone new by thinking differently. You become someone new by experiencing yourself differently.

The moments that actually build capacity are the ones where you stay in the conversation when all you want to do is escape. When your heart is racing but you choose not to abandon yourself. When you try the boundary anyway. When you pause instead of react.

That’s what rewires you. Physiologically. Emotionally. Every time you choose a different path than the one your nervous system has practiced for years, you build evidence that a new reality is possible. Step by step, your reactions start to change. And you begin experiencing yourself in ways you actually respect.

I’d love to practice with you.

— Jordan Buchan
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Choosing a container for your growth matters. If you're unsure, or if there's something specific on your mind, I’m happy to talk it through with you.

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Interactive Connection Deck

The Depth
of Us

A guided conversation experience for people who want to slow down, feel more, and share more honestly. This is not about performing vulnerability or coming up with the “best” answer. It is about noticing what is true for you and letting that be enough.

01

Create the Container

The quality of the conversation depends on the quality of the space. Before anyone draws a card, take a moment to create a shared agreement around presence, honesty, and care.

  • Add everyone’s names so the game can rotate turns clearly.
  • Choose a share time that fits the group. Two minutes keeps things lighter and more fluid. Four minutes allows for deeper reflection and more room to settle into what is real.
  • Use prompt delay if you want the word to land first. This gives people a few seconds before they can reveal a prompt, so they have a chance to notice their own inner response before being guided outward.
  • Keep the space device-free and interruption-free. No side conversations. No multitasking. No reacting while someone is sharing.
  • Let this be a no-fixing space. No advice, no analysis, no rescuing, no trying to make someone’s experience cleaner or easier than it is.
  • Confidentiality matters. What is shared here stays here unless someone explicitly says otherwise.
  • Passing is allowed. No one is required to answer every word or every prompt. Choice helps create safety.

A safe space does not mean everyone will feel perfectly relaxed. It means people know they do not have to perform, defend, impress, or explain themselves away. It means they can share honestly and trust they will be met with respect.

02

Let the Word Land

When a card is drawn, the word appears first. This part matters. Do not rush past it. The word itself is the doorway.

Before you speak, pause for a moment and notice what happens inside you when you read the word. You are not trying to come up with something profound. You are simply noticing your first real response.

  • Notice your body. Do you feel openness, tightness, warmth, resistance, numbness, tenderness, or nothing at all?
  • Notice your mind. Does a memory come up? A person? A recent conversation? A story you tell yourself?
  • Notice your emotional response. Do you feel curiosity, discomfort, grief, relief, longing, irritation, confusion, or surprise?
  • Notice your impulse. Do you want to share immediately? Shut down? Make a joke? Change the subject? Those reactions are information too.

Sometimes the word hits instantly. Sometimes it feels blank at first. Both are valid.

If nothing obvious comes up, that does not mean you are doing it wrong. You can simply begin with something honest and simple:

  • “At first I do not feel much, but when I stay with it I notice...”
  • “This word makes me think of...”
  • “My first reaction is resistance because...”
  • “I do not know exactly why, but this word makes my chest feel...”
  • “The person I immediately think of is...”

The goal is not to be impressive. The goal is to be real.

03

Share What Is True

Once the word has landed, share whatever feels true for you in that moment.

  • You can share a memory.
  • You can share a feeling.
  • You can share a body sensation.
  • You can share a question you are still sitting with.
  • You can share a contradiction.
  • You can share that you are confused or unsure.
04

Use the Prompts as Support, Not Pressure

If you want more guidance, reveal a prompt. Prompts are there to help deepen the reflection, not to force it.

  • The word always comes first. Start with your own reaction if you can.
  • Prompts are optional. You do not need to use them if the word already opened something real.
  • You do not need to answer every prompt. Choose the one that actually stirs something in you.
  • If none of the prompts fit, ignore them. Your real response matters more than following the structure perfectly.

Think of prompts as gentle support. Not a test. Not homework. Not a demand.

Sometimes a prompt will give language to something you were already feeling but could not name. Sometimes it will open a completely different doorway. Sometimes it will do nothing. That is okay too.

05

Respect the Rhythm of the Turn

Each person has their own turn. The timer is there to create rhythm, not pressure.

  • The timer starts on the first card draw of the turn.
  • You can draw a different card during your turn if the word truly is not the one.
  • You can pause the timer if the group needs a breath or the moment needs a little more space.
  • A soft bell sounds near the end so the speaker can begin to close naturally.
  • When time ends, the next person’s turn begins.
  • If someone does not want to share, skip the turn. The card clears and the next person takes over.

Silence is allowed. In fact, silence is often part of the depth.

If someone finishes speaking before the timer ends, let there be a pause. Do not rush to fill the space. Some of the most meaningful moments happen after the words.

06

Listen Like It Matters

This game is not only about sharing. It is about how we receive each other.

  • Listen without interrupting.
  • Listen without planning what you will say when it is your turn.
  • Listen without comparing their experience to yours.
  • Listen without trying to fix, soothe, teach, correct, or improve what they shared.
  • Let their words land before moving on.

Good listening creates the safety that allows honesty to deepen.

If you are facilitating, remind the group that this is not a debate, not a therapy session, and not a place to give unsolicited advice. It is a space to witness, reflect, and let people be fully human without editing them into something easier to hold.

07

A Few Reminders Before You Begin

  • You do not need to be profound. Honest is enough.
  • You do not need to force vulnerability. Go at the pace that feels real.
  • You do not need to explain yourself perfectly. Unfinished truth still counts.
  • You do not need to share the biggest thing. Sometimes a small truth is the real one.
  • You are allowed to pass.
  • You are allowed to be surprised by your own answer.

This experience works best when people stop trying to do it “well” and start letting themselves actually be in it.

Agreements

  • ● The Right to Pass: Depth cannot be forced. You always have the right to skip a card or prompt.
  • ● Confidentiality: Everything shared in this space stays in this space.
  • ● No Fixing: We listen to understand, not to offer advice or solve each other's experiences.
  • ● Integration: We allow a moment of silence after a share to let the words land.
03

Live Practice
Circles

The library and workshops give you the map. The Practice Circle is where you actually drive. This is a guided, real-time space to turn new behaviors into second nature.

Real-Time Prep Settle your nervous system so you can show up clearly and calmly.
Witnessed Practice Try out new ways of speaking and setting boundaries in low-pressure settings.
Stay Centered Learn how to keep your cool, even when a conversation gets intense.
Integration Bridge the gap between "the lab" and your real-world relationships.
Live Practice Agenda 90 MIN SESSION

Practice Session

1Somatic Grounding & Regulation
2Exercise Demo & Modeling
3Active Practice Breakout Rooms
4Sharing Circles & Peer Feedback
5Somatic Reflection & Integration
6Weekly "Homework" Assignment
7Closing Connection & Checkout

Safe Space Protocol Active

02

Skill-Building
Workshops

Before stepping into live practice, you get the technical tools. Our workshops provide the behavioral frameworks and internal blueprints required to navigate tough moments with confidence.

Behavioral Frameworks Move beyond theory with word-for-word scripts and structured communication blueprints.
Internal Safety Learn physical tools to manage your system so you can stay present during conflict.
Foundation Prep The core instruction that prepares you for real-world application in our Practice Circles.
Skill-Building Syllabus

Workshops

From Victim to Empowerment Breaking the cycle of feeling powerlessness
Live
Building Internal Safety Blueprints for remaining calm & focused
On-Demand
Stop Abandoning Yourself Breaking the people-pleasing mechanics
On-Demand
Conflict & Repair Word-for-word templates for connection
Live
01

Therapist-Backed
Resources

This is where your awareness begins. Everything in The Resource Center is neuroscience-informed and designed to help you gain the perspective needed to stop the spiral before it starts.

Deep-Dive Guides Comprehensive, exercise-rich walkthroughs on real-life challenges.
Somatic Practices Integrated body-based exercises to move theory into physical regulation.
Relational Scripts Word-for-word communication templates for boundaries and conflict.
Worksheets & PDFs Actionable downloads to work through specific challenges.
The Resource Center
TOOL
The Interactive Feelings Wheel Explore and work through your emotions
MP3
12-Min "Emergency Landing" Somatic Regulation Audio
GUIDE
Rewiring Negative Self-Talk Video Guide & Worksheet
PDF
High-Conflict Script Communication Template
ABOUT SOFIA

I am an Intern Somatic Body Psychotherapist, Neuroscientist, Dancer, and Dance Teacher. My passion for mental health began at age 14, sparked by a natural ability to attune to people’s emotional landscapes.

Over the past 15 years, I’ve travelled the world exploring the human psyche — a journey that shaped my integrated approach, rooted in neuroscience (brain), psychology (mind), philosophy (spirit), and somatic practices like dance (body).

This embedded with my empirical experience has made it a personal and interpersonal discovery – in line with my essence and natural tendency to help those around me deal with various aspects of mental well-being.

It is this multidimensional understanding of what it means to be human that is at the heart of my work.

My work as a somatic body psychotherapist draws on the concept that life is a continuous unfolding process, from the first cell in the womb to the present moment. All aspects of our being need to be considered when navigating mental health issues.

I support each client’s unique process with openness and curiosity of all these aspects, helping transform scattered energy into a coherent source of well-being and vitality, reshaping life in ways that often exceed expectations.

Through my Neuroscience of Dance project and Dance Integrated Healing Method, I offer neurocognitive and movement-based tools for healing.

For the past six years, I’ve supported dancers and educators worldwide through sessions and workshops, focusing on injury recovery, neurological rehabilitation, memory and balance, mental health, and the therapeutic potential of dance. This integration of dance, neuroscience, and psychology began during my postgraduate research on the brain mechanisms behind dance, in collaboration with a leading researcher in the field.

My research has been published in Dance Data, Cognition, and Multimodal Communication and presented at the International Association for Dance Medicine & Science (IADMS) conference. I was honoured when this project was nominated for the IADMS Dance Educator Award (2022) and the Applied Dance Science Award (2021) from One Dance UK, which also recognised me as a Healthier Dancer Practitioner.

Personally, advocate for neurodiversity as a proud dyslexic. I love cats, cute cafes, cats, long walks, writing, cats, poetry.

Did I say cats?

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